Friend or Foe?

Have you ever made a friend that you regret making? When I got to SMU I tried to make as many friends as possible. I met a few good friends at AARO actually. I met a guy who seemed pretty down to earth and very similar to me in a lot of ways. We joked and became friends fast. The only problem was that was at AARO. A short meeting time that really only showed me one side. As the semester started we chilled and went to the frats and stuff. I started to notice he was rather loud and obnoxious. At the frats he'd get belligerently drunk and rather embarrassing. He wasn't independent at all and always hung around me. As I went around to the different frats I seem to have found the one I like the most and I get along with them well. The only thing about that is that If I'm with the annoying guy I really don't want the frat to associate me with him. Is that bad? Its not that I don't want the friendship anymore but he certainly isn't who I thought he was.

College: The Metamorphisis

College is an oppertunity to learn and experience a gradual move into society. It truely is what you make it. I think alot of people realize you're stepping into a whole new world where no one knows you and it can be very scary. I also believe there are alot of those people who forget that "no one knows you". This is the time to reinvent yourself to be whoever you want if you choose to make this change.

When I came to SMU I knew of a few friends coming from my school to smu but only 2 actually living on campus. One was really more of an aquaintance than a friend. I had my group of friends in highschool and like the "clicks " go I sat with the wrestlers on the opposite side of the table of the football players at lunch. We just stuck together as best friends do. Until senior year when a alien to our table decieded to join us. We all knew him and he just did not fit in at all. This kid was a nerd of nerds but not really a bad person just somone you kinda felt sorry for.

I think thats an appropriate disscription and backstory to the person he used to be. I used to give him all kinds of trouble for just awkwardly sitting with us without saying anything. I was a real jerk to him but it usually got a few laughs. I never mean to hurt but I usually won't kid around with you unless i like you. So here is the shocker. I was at a party recently and I saw this guy there talking, being social, and participating in activities foriegn to him. I called him over and said "hey" and told him my amazment in his change. He then THANKED me for being a jerk in highschool claiming that he was really awkward and probably deserved it. He told me if I hadnt been a jerk , he would have had no reason to realize things he should change. I said "you're welcome?" with a perplexed raised eyebrow.

I think its so amazing how he could just transform like that. I hope that people will have the courage to change what they dont like about themselves when they get to college. But not in a bad way, just things they'd like to improve upon. Its a fresh start, don't blow it.

...and yes I'm trying to be nicer as well.